Hey Squishies, time for part deux of my Getcher Kid In His Crib series! So as I said before, I had gotten several comments about why bed sharing was going to be so very bad and horrible, but that didn’t change the simple fact that it worked for us. It was how I got the most sleep. It allowed for easy access to the
promised land boobs. It worked really great for 8.5 months, until it didn’t.
Squishy Baby began getting more mobile in bed, and wanting to roll away from the crook of my arm. He began wanting to nurse all night long- and I mean ALL night long, because every time he nudged me and smelled the boobage it signaled something within him that made him think “breakfast?!” now?? No?? How bout now? No? How bout now?!” and so on and so forth. As I type this I am also lacing my shoes with my nipples before we head out for the day. Seriously. My Boobs deserve some kind of award, like the Nursies or something. I totally deserve a Nursie.
Anyway, so I knew getting Squishy Baby in the crib was going to be about as easy as teaching a goldfish to blow its nose. I knew this from previous attempts of me setting him down in the crib and then him acting as if I had placed him in a kiddie pool full of piranhas. They also don’t know how to blow their noses. Anyway. I knew it would be tough so I wanted to ease the transition as much as possible. Someone recommended that I get him used to the room by sleeping in the nursery with him, and bed sharing.
So, I bought a nap map from Costco, which is about as comfortable as sleeping on 3 inches of foam can be and we slept together on the floor of the nursery for about a week and a half. We moved our nighttime routine into the nursery, (books,bottle,nursing) after bath of course, and it went very well. He seemed to transition wonderfully as long as I was there.
Then one night, I thought I’d try laying him in the crib after nursing and rocking and just seeing what happened. What happened was that he slept for an hour! Then I nursed him back to sleep and he slept another two! He slept in the crib that night, and then did the same for naps during the day. He began trying to push away from me during rocking to let me know he was ready to be put down to sleep. I listened to his cues, as I have from the beginning, and they’ve never lead me astray. I should add that during this time I continued to sleep on the floor next to his crib so that he knew I was right there, like always. But he was IN HIS CRIB.
You guys. I don’t know if you can understand the hugeness of this. I texted Mr. Squish that day like I had witnessed a unicorn chewing on the Loch Ness monster’s tail in our front yard. “You won’t believe this…he’s in the crib….SLEEPING.”
Now, I’m not going to lie to you and say every night is easy. He’s up about 3 times a night on average to nurse and rock to sleep. It’s a lot. Yes, he should be sleeping all night long or in bigger chunks- but this?! This is progress, and I’ll take it. I’ll take it and hug it and ask where it’s been since we’ve been hoping for just naps in the crib for forever. Also, I realize this period of his life is so short, that yes, I’m tired, but I also know that all too soon I will be straining to hear him lumber up the steps after a night out with friends, and I won’t be sleeping soundly then either.
My baby likes me to rock him, so I do. He likes to be held, so I do. In this family, we don’t rush things, and I’m in no hurry to let him grow up and away just yet. So for now, again, this works for us. I hope this helps some other moms out there find a gentle approach to crib sleeping if that’s what you’re after. We haven’t had many tears except when he wakes up and cries “mama…mama…MAMA!” which, oh my goodness you guys. It makes opening that door to pick him up for snuggles the best thing this life has to offer. How I love that boy. So, no crying it out here- except of course when you realize your baby can sleep by himself on his own, and then there might be some tears for you. Some of us may or may not have had a little cry it out party over that at first. We also may or may not stand over the crib and marvel at God’s gracious miracles as they sleep.
Happy Friday everyone! Have a blessed weekend with lots of tearless sleep!